Oprah's Lifeclass started last week. Each week night we can tune in to her program and let one of the greatest teachers teach us. I excitedly awaited each episode with notebook in hand waiting to hear what the latest lesson was going to I made a be and what I could get out of it. After all, that is what lessons are all about right? Soaking in what we learn and being able to apply it to our lives.
The first 2 episodes were about the false power of ego and letting go of anger leading to forgiveness. How many of us can relate to those? Something that someone said on that first episode really resonated with me.
'I don't think anyone can hurt my anymore. They are only giving me their observation. I am giving it meaning.'
I can't even say how much this is so me! I am forever letting other peoples thoughts and opinions affect me in my life. I have always let these words that spew out of someones mouth dictate how I can going to feel. I don;t have to like what someone says or even agree with it. That is there observation. they are entitled to it just as I am entitled to my own. When I give meaning to a comment someone says, I am in reality giving them power. Literally handing them my own power. I made a promise to myself a long time ago. I will never let any person have power over me again, ever! My own lessons learned through having the kind of father I had and living through the childhood I did. No one was to have that kind of power over me again. Without even realizing it, I broke my own promise to myself. Because letting something as insignificant to my own reality as someones opinions get under my skin was just as damaging as letting an over-baring man take away my goodness and innocence. I have re-made that promise to myself and I am going to do my best to stick to it and not let the words of others bother me again.
This lead to anger and forgiveness.
'Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.'
I 100% believe that to forgive is for you, not for the person that needs to be forgiven. Holding on to that anger and hatred for someone or events that took place will never let you move on fully. To forgive is not saying what happened to you is ok. To forgive is not giving the person or persons who hurt you off with a slap on the hand. To be the person who is in a place that you can forgive is saying that you are accepting what happened to you, you know that it can never be changed and you are strong enough to move on and move past it. It took me awhile to get to a place where I can say I have forgiven. It doesn't mean that I still don't. That won;t go away entirely. But I can say that I have moved on, accepted and don't look back wishing I can change it.
I have forgiven the neighbour who sexually abused me for 3 years. He took away my innocence, my trust and in place of them gave me many years of self doubt and worthlessness. By forgiving, I'm not saying it's ok, I'm saying I have moved beyond that point and I'm ok.
I have forgiven my father. For not being there for me, for turning his back on me when I was at my most vulnerable. By forgiving him, I'm not saying 'I want you in my life', I'm saying I have moved beyond that point and I don't need that negative influence to succeed in my future. It still hurts knowing that my own father doesn't love me enough to want me in his life. That hurts very much. However, that doesn't define me. Not anymore. And I'm ok!
This week, I also learned that you become what you believe. We need to pay attention to the life that we have right now. Believe that there is a reason why we are here, now, in this moment.
'If you can see it or believe it, it is alot easier to achieve it.'
Do you believe that you are worthy of happiness? I know this can be a tough one for many of us. Believing that you deserve all of your wildest dreams to come true can seem like wishful thinking, but just knowing that you deserve it is leaps and bounds better then telling yourself it will never happen, not for someone like me. Because you know what? I can happen! To find your true purpose, pay attention to the life that you are leading now. Know that you are worthy. You allow the truth of yourself to express yourself. If you are a write, whether 15 people or 15 million people read what you wrote, you are a writer.
'Shadow beliefs are holding you back from the life you deserve. Escavate and unleash what you really believe. If its not working for you, change it.' ~ Oprah's Lifeclass
I encourage everyone to tune in to OWN and watch Oprah's Lifeclass. I promise that there will be at least on episode that you will be able to match to your own life and allow it to have an everlasting impact. From what I understand, Fridays episodes that they are calling Joy Uprising will be just that. She will go back and reminisce over previous guests and what moments really and truly were cause for a joy uprising! For sure a feel good hour, bringing a familiar tear of gladness and joy. I mean, honestly, just seeing my Lady O back on tv everyday is enough to bring a woot woot of joy and hours upon hours of the happy dance around my apartment. But even more then that, to again learn from one of my most trusted teachers of life, I am inspired, in awe and in appreciation once again. Yeah, I'm kind of a fan if you didn't know yet!
Hope you all enjoyed my latest thoughts. Thanks for tuning in again guys and gals!
Misty
xo
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